HOW TO DATE SAFELY

Jacqueline Nichols

ENJOY A SUCCESSFUL DATING EXPERIENCE!

He caught your attention, but, really who is he?? Is he safe to meet or just a nice eye candy distraction?? It’s one thing to be attracted to someone and an entirely different thing to begin opening your heart to a new relationship. The reality is that dating is the most direct way to find a quality relationship. It’s a necessary part of moving from “single” status, to “in a relationship.” Safety is most important for your journey to success and fun in the dating world! Top five tips to be sure you’re safe in dating situations:

• If you are seeking to date a man you’ve met online, it’s absolutely necessary to know that your safety starts with your profile. Do not share detailed information like what part of town you live in, how many children you have, your exact birthday, your place of work or your full name. When someone reads your profile, all they should learn is about your hobbies, family, interests, goals, education and type of employment. Such discreteness will make him want to say “yes” to further the conversation with you. Be careful to not look desperate or lonely. Otherwise you might become a target for a scam.

• Even if you meet someone new through friends, it’s still important to be cautious until you personally feel comfortable. With each new connection, think of “safety first,” until you have enough information about the new man in your life to comfortably reveal more about yourself. Your friends might think he’s a great catch, yet they have no idea what it’s actually like to date him. Trust your instincts, and never feel obligated to go on a blind date to make your friends happy.

• Completing a Google search on a potential date can bring up a lot of information. Be aware that this information is not always accurate. Google yourself as well, to see what someone else might find out about you. You will be amazed how much is publicly available.

• When you begin communications with someone new, make sure a close friend or relative knows the person you are talking with, his phone number, and where and when you are going on your first date. It might seem excessive, but if anything happens it will be crucial to have access to these details as quickly as possible.

• For the first date we’ve all heard that it is best to meet in a public space. It is also important to pick a neighborhood you’re comfortable in. If it’s a community where your friends and family live, you might just run into someone you know. This will show your date you have people keeping an eye out for you. Familiarity is crucial for keeping in control of your dating experience. If you feel uncomfortable at any point and need to end the date, know exactly where to go. Always have a back-up plan. It’s important not to be dependent upon him to get you back to your community. Ready to find love? Go out and have some fun while still being safe! It really is powerful to meet new people and learn from every date, but always keep a clear head for safety while you enjoy the magic of a new dating experience. Keep a positive attitude and enjoy the adventure of finding love.

FIND, ENJOY AND KEEP LOVE

Jacqueline Nichols

LET YOURSELF BELIEVE IN LOVE … AGAIN!

So, you’ve decided you want to let love in your life. It is important to understand why you are single, and being open to embracing the possibilities of letting love in. With the right balance of Chemistry, Conversation and Charisma, anything is possible. The world of dating is competitive and you need to have an A+ attitude not only for dating, but to be able to move into a relationship. This is your time to shine above everyone else. Be the person that others can’t wait to see again! To truly shine above all others, you need to stand out.

This is what I’ve found that guys look for:

• Lots of laughter and good conversation, be fun to talk to.

• Beauty, take time to look your best and carry yourself well.

• Make him feel important and that you love sharing time with him.

• Have topics to talk about and don’t leave the entire conversation up to him.

• Focus on your time together and do not look to get attention from anyone else.

• Be affectionate and attentive to him and the conversation.

• Make him feel handsome and special with your compliments and flirty giggles.

• Give clear signals that you want to see him so he knows that he can ask you out again. Here is what does not work for the guy and ensures he won’t ask you out again:

• Complaining or over-talking about an ex spouse or past relationship.

• Coming across as uninterested to be on a date with him.

• Having nothing but your kids to talk about.

• Dominating the conversation or not sharing very much about you, it’s a balance.

• Not saying ‘thank you’ after the guy treats.

• Feeling like the conversation was not natural or comfortable.

• Being late for a date implies that he isn’t important to you.

• Dressing too casually or looking messy shows a guy you don’t value your own appearance.

• Not making eye contact, gives the signal you are not interested, even if you are.

• Giving no signal that it’s okay to give you a hug or hold your hand denies any chance for chemistry to start.

• Talking about how busy you are actually makes a guy wonder if your just saying that to get out of another date.

I would encourage you to release all of the old ways you have been dating, it’s a whole new experience now. Focus more on enjoying yourself and being present on your date, and don’t be so quick to want to cross the finish line. People love to be around people who are fun, it’s infectious. So get your sexy on!

Have your hair done and buy a new outfit! You’ll be happy you did.